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“The Way” to Healing Pain

healing_rockI wake up Saturday morning at 3 am, my whole body is engulfed in pain.  I awake with a migraine, I feel feverish, and my whole body just aches.  I have lived the past two months on the road.  I took a job as a “roadie” setting up school assembly programs.  This job as a presenter requires long drives and unloading a van with a lot of equipment, setting up three large screen, three projectors, a Bose sound system with two large speakers.  A physically demanding job.

Prior to this job my body has endured forty years of serious trauma; from being crushed by a van, to Bipolar Disorder, to painful migraines, to being a disabled man from Multiple Sclerosis.   I was fortunate to reverse the damage done to the body.  I found “The Way” to heal through meditation, mindfulness, and yoga.  I detail all this out in my first book “I Don’t Dwell.”

When I got out of bed at 3 am, I fixed myself a little something to eat.  My body craves food with migraines.  After some water and a granola bar, I sit for meditation.   When people think of meditation they tend to shy away.  I have a no rules approach to meditation.  If you gave me a series of steps or rules when I was dealing with my OCD bipolar brain, I would have never found “The Way.”  Rules become a mental prison.

By 3:30 am I’m sitting in meditation.  I find that when pain, stress, or worry arrive in my mind, I go within and remove the garbage.  Within a little bit of time the garbage is removed and the pain is much less.  I write a few pages, and then return to bed.   When I wake up the pain is lingering and I head back into meditation and repeat.   After two days of this process I feel back to normal.

The body has an amazing ability to heal itself.  One simply needs to find “The Way” for them.   A one size fits all approach to life doesn’t work  There are 7.3 billion people on the Earth.  There are 7.3 billion paths to deal with pain; emotional, physical, or spiritual.   “The Way” is always internal, and the outside world is an aide.  The aide could arrive in a supplement, a vitamin, an essential oil, a specific diet, a doctor, a teacher, etc.  The number of aides is infinite.

The only requirement to finding “The Way” is to have an open mind.  A willingness to explore and remove the limiting beliefs –the garbage.  As Lao Zhou said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”   I moved my mountain of “incurable” diseases one pebble at a time.

I left my corporate job to help others heal, and find lasting happiness.

Please join the Heal Yourself Club on Facebook.   This is your one life,  you don’t need to continue to suffer.   Let’s find “The Way!”

A Heal Yourself Club closed group for discussions and personal help;  https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyourselfclub/

A Heal Yourself Club page for general help;  https://www.facebook.com/healyourselfclub/

My personal page;  https://www.facebook.com/shelley.sam

 

 

 

 

 

Chasing Your Thoughts Does Not Result In Happiness

Manage ThoughtsOur thoughts become the dangling carrot that we’re always chasing for happiness. We have to catch the carrot to be happy and content.

On the rare occasion we reach the carrot, and then we find that the carrot isn’t satisfying. Then a new, juicer carrot appears, and we begin to chase this one down. Then we do reach this carrot and we find the same result of the previous carrot. We are stuck in a loop, and we become obsessed with our thoughts and life isn’t satisfying.

I stopped chasing carrots by doing less. Doing less for me was finding my meditation and mindfulness practice. My initial practice was five minutes. For five minutes a day I did less chasing of thoughts, and this little activity started to quiet the mind.

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How to use watching football as a spiritual practice

After the science and nonduality conference this past weekend in San Jose,  John took me out to dinner at a local pizza restaurant.  The TV was on,  the resturant was showing the football game between  Washington and Dallas.

How to Turn the Big Game Into a Spiritual PracticeJohn was facing the TV,  and my back was to the TV.   He mentioned that Romo was injured on a play,  and the TV then showed the owner Jones.

He mentioned that Jones must be worried about Romo.

And I asked, “Why do you think that?  Perhaps he is worried about the potential loss to the business, and has no real concerns for the players’ health.”   I then mentioned that his mind is creating a story about everything he is seeing,  and that he is unable to know exactly what Jones is thinking.

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How to Fall Asleep by Stopping the Racing Thoughts

how to fall asleepI had to be knocked out, or the constant mind chatter would keep me awake.  I had racing thoughts most of my life, and I ended up taking sleeping pills for 20+ years.  With the sleeping pills I had difficulty waking up and I was very sluggish.  Avoiding the sleeping pills wasn’t an option since the lack of sleep was a trigger for my migraines or the lack of sleep triggered a manic episode (I was diagnosed Bipolar I).

My mind chatter was usually stuck thinking about how someone treated me earlier in the day, or thinking about the excitement or dread about the upcoming day.  I was possessed by my thoughts and I took all my thoughts as the absolute truth.   Since I took all my thoughts as my truth I suffered from very low self-esteem, high levels of stress, and was in a constant state of worry.   I developed a mindset that I wasn’t good enough or deserving, and became suicidal.

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Finding True Freedom When The World Is Falling Apart

Finding true freedomThis was a challenging week, as most weeks are. Life is hard. There was a mixture of desirable and undesirable event, from a new office to a very sick father in intensive care (who has since made a remarkable recovery and is home).

This is all part of my life experience, and these have to be accepted fully. The mind will naturally try to alter the past by denying the current situation, and the past cannot be changed. If I did not accept these experiences or circumstances fully then I’ll give the mind fuel to create stress, anxiety, worry and fear. Accepting each moment is unnatural, since this is not normally taught.

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Reality clashes with the mind — dealing with my father’s health

My father is in the intensive care unit with kidney failure in septic shock (blood poisoning). We’re unsure if he is going to survive, but I have a hunch that the worst is over. Deep down, I realize my father’s spirit is perfect; it is his body that’s damaged.

When I reside in the present moment, I understand the situation clearly. If he does drop his body, I know he has simply returned to his natural form of pure consciousness.

My mind is always producing thoughts, always looking for a nugget to take me out of this moment. The mind is a storyteller trying to get me hooked into a story. I fell into the mind trap for decades and suffered great pain.

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The never-ending cycle of violence — school shootings, genocide and war

cycle of violence

Read the news, and you will be presented with the daily tragedies.

“Ukraine says Malaysian Airliner with 295 Aboard Shot Down”

“Gaza Toll Near 340 As Israel Presses Ground War”

This one headline captured the essence of the violent world:

“Oregon shooting: ‘This is becoming the norm’ — but will anything change?”

There’s no rational explanation for our society’s cycle of violence. Nor is there a rational explanation for why someone would take innocent lives, whether in the form of a school shooting, downing an aircraft, or kidnapping and then killing the innocent, which starts a war. All those events succeed to keep us living in a state of fear.

Franklin Roosevelt said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Fear is a very powerful force; it keeps the mind busy with ‘what if’ scenarios, always thinking of ways to keep us safe when there is no immediate danger. If there is immediate danger, we must take action or perish.

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Relax! You’re giving yourself an autoimmune disease!

autoimmune diseaseI was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, Psoriasis, and Psoriatic Arthritis. I was part of the growing epidemic of those diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.

According to the National Institutes of Health, “More than 80 diseases occur as a result of the immune system attacking the body’s own organs, tissues, and cells. Some of the more common autoimmune diseases include type 1 diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, systemic lupus erythematosus, and inflammatory bowel disease.”

There are many factors to create an autoimmune disease. One factor is the environment. Food, water, air quality and mental state. also contribute. I was frequently under a lot of anxiety and stress, and later diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I never knew how my mental state affected my health, and I was not diagnosed with my autoimmune disorders until a period of time after my bipolar diagnosis.

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There Are No Mistakes

There Are No Mistakes“Why did I heal?”

I took this question into my contemplation practice. In this practice you ask yourself a big question with no easy answer. The objective of this practice is to quiet the mind and allow the deep wisdom to arise.

“There are no mistakes. We are given free will and in this state of choice there is “right action” or “distraction.” The noisy mind usually choses distraction, over right action. Right action is difficult in a fear based society. The mind thrives in fear. The mind is in charge with this negative mindset. It will bark out commands that we follow without much resistance. The commands are distractions that will prevent you from spending time to learn the lesson that life is presenting you.”

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All Diets Are Destined To Fail If The Brain Isn’t Altered.

Diets Are Destined To FailCrap! What did I eat? My routine before the shower was to weigh myself. I would think about the prior day and what I ate. This immediately put me in a bad mood, and kept me trapped in yesterday.

Why did I eat that, and not this? My favorite game was playing “what-if?” Thinking about the past wasn’t going to change the past, yet I did my best to change yesterday. I would create a new plan for the day. I am only going to eat this today. There was one problem, I had a habit of eating crap. I would have to make constant conscious choices.

Habits live in the subconscious, and this part of the brain is faster than the conscious brain. They only way to live in the conscious was to be here in this moment. I was rarely in this moment, my favorite habit was dwelling in the past.

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