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Beyond the Darkness with Sam the Miracle Man.

On July 10,  I gave an interview to the podcast Beyond the Darkness.

Sam the Miracle Man, as he is affectionately called by his friends has survived two near-death experiences & five incurable diseases.
Sam Shelley spent most of his life in pain with his mental and physical disabilities & required thirteen medications a day and needed mobility aides (walker/cane).

Today, Sam lives free of disability, free of medicine, and free of disease. This is a story that EVERYONE needs to hear to believe.”

https://www.podcastone.com/episode/Sam-The-Miracle-Man

This interview received the most positive feedback that I received to date,  here a a few of the comments.

“Brilliant, Mind blowing interview with Dave Schrader.”

“Hey guys! My name is Emily, I’ve written once before to share an experience I’ve had. I’m writing you this morning to simply thank you. I struggle with the “head trash”/ depression/demons, whatever you want to call it. In fact, the struggle is so real sometimes I find myself looking at my three very beautiful children, one of which has Down syndrome, and think to myself…why can’t I enjoy my life? What a piece of crap am I that I cannot love my life and all that is in it. Still, as strong as I am and can appear to be these pains are real and it makes life…well it makes life harder than I’d like it to be but it’s not. I digress. I came to a dark point, yet again, where I found myself consumed by these dark thoughts. I sat in my tiny bathroom crying, asking my guides and angels to help me see the light because I felt blinded by the dark. I heard nothing. I felt…nothing and it broke my heart. I gathered myself and washed up to hide the fact I was just falling apart in my bathroom. I reluctantly went downstairs to start dinner. I pulled out my phone and kicked on your podcast as I usually do when I cook or clean. The miracle man. I didn’t see the title. I had no clue where I had left off because to be honest, I hadn’t cooked or cleaned in a long time. I couldn’t bring myself to do so. But that night was different. I was almost on autopilot or so I thought? The episode grabbed my attention immediately. I cried in silence. I cried out loud. I came out of the kitchen and brought my family together to listen. That podcast changed me and my family’s life. A simple thank you is all I wanted to say. I want to repay you and Sam but I know I cannot. Instead I am going to continue to spread his and your beautiful message because it is now my message. Great. Now I’m crying again. THANKS GUYS!!! All the love and positivity your way,”

“I was fortunate to listen to you on Beyond the Darkness. Thank you. I really, really needed to hear your story.”

 

 

“The Way” to Healing Pain

healing_rockI wake up Saturday morning at 3 am, my whole body is engulfed in pain.  I awake with a migraine, I feel feverish, and my whole body just aches.  I have lived the past two months on the road.  I took a job as a “roadie” setting up school assembly programs.  This job as a presenter requires long drives and unloading a van with a lot of equipment, setting up three large screen, three projectors, a Bose sound system with two large speakers.  A physically demanding job.

Prior to this job my body has endured forty years of serious trauma; from being crushed by a van, to Bipolar Disorder, to painful migraines, to being a disabled man from Multiple Sclerosis.   I was fortunate to reverse the damage done to the body.  I found “The Way” to heal through meditation, mindfulness, and yoga.  I detail all this out in my first book “I Don’t Dwell.”

When I got out of bed at 3 am, I fixed myself a little something to eat.  My body craves food with migraines.  After some water and a granola bar, I sit for meditation.   When people think of meditation they tend to shy away.  I have a no rules approach to meditation.  If you gave me a series of steps or rules when I was dealing with my OCD bipolar brain, I would have never found “The Way.”  Rules become a mental prison.

By 3:30 am I’m sitting in meditation.  I find that when pain, stress, or worry arrive in my mind, I go within and remove the garbage.  Within a little bit of time the garbage is removed and the pain is much less.  I write a few pages, and then return to bed.   When I wake up the pain is lingering and I head back into meditation and repeat.   After two days of this process I feel back to normal.

The body has an amazing ability to heal itself.  One simply needs to find “The Way” for them.   A one size fits all approach to life doesn’t work  There are 7.3 billion people on the Earth.  There are 7.3 billion paths to deal with pain; emotional, physical, or spiritual.   “The Way” is always internal, and the outside world is an aide.  The aide could arrive in a supplement, a vitamin, an essential oil, a specific diet, a doctor, a teacher, etc.  The number of aides is infinite.

The only requirement to finding “The Way” is to have an open mind.  A willingness to explore and remove the limiting beliefs –the garbage.  As Lao Zhou said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”   I moved my mountain of “incurable” diseases one pebble at a time.

I left my corporate job to help others heal, and find lasting happiness.

Please join the Heal Yourself Club on Facebook.   This is your one life,  you don’t need to continue to suffer.   Let’s find “The Way!”

A Heal Yourself Club closed group for discussions and personal help;  https://www.facebook.com/groups/healyourselfclub/

A Heal Yourself Club page for general help;  https://www.facebook.com/healyourselfclub/

My personal page;  https://www.facebook.com/shelley.sam

 

 

 

 

 

Names (Labels) Create Mental Limitations

mental limitationsI’m staring up at the ceiling, and I see the constellation Orion.  Then I look around and notice the “ceiling” is filled with stars.  I look over at the clock – 5 AM.  I still feel myself lying in bed.  I close my eyes, and open them again and notice that nothing has changed.  No ceiling, 5 AM, still in bed.  I do this for several minutes to confirm my reality. This isn’t the first time that I saw stars, but this was the first time I remember doing a thorough investigation of my surroundings.

Later in the day while in mediation, I went into a self-compilation practice.  This is where you ask yourself a big question with no easy answer (who am I?).

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Newly Diagnosed With MS? Here Is Some Advice

When I was diagnosed with my various ailments, I read everything I could about the diseases.   I became a walking encyclopedia of knowledge.

Newly Diagnosed with MSThere was a problem with knowing all this information: my mind had a habit of believing that everything I read would happen to me.

With multiple sclerosis, there’s a lot of discussion around fatigue.   This gave me the belief that I was supposed to be tired all the time.  Then I took medication to combat the fatigue.

With bipolar, I wasn’t supposed to be dependable.   Which added to the stigma of mental health, that I’m not supposed to be dependable and worthy.

Not being worthy created a lot issues with self-esteem, and I felt that I wasn’t good enough.  These ‘not good enough beliefs’ added to the suicidal thoughts.

I would’ve been a lot better off not reading anything about my diseases, and instead simply living life to the best of my ability.   However, this was not my mind’s default behavior.  My mind enjoyed acquiring information.   Then my mind took all this information and played games:  What if this happens? My future life is going to look like this with my diseases, etc.

My mind loved to play the dwelling-in-thought game, which added additional stress.  This additional stress lead to more diseases.

If you are newly diagnosed with MS, my advice would be to stop reading about your ailments, and go live life.

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How to Fall Asleep by Stopping the Racing Thoughts

how to fall asleepI had to be knocked out, or the constant mind chatter would keep me awake.  I had racing thoughts most of my life, and I ended up taking sleeping pills for 20+ years.  With the sleeping pills I had difficulty waking up and I was very sluggish.  Avoiding the sleeping pills wasn’t an option since the lack of sleep was a trigger for my migraines or the lack of sleep triggered a manic episode (I was diagnosed Bipolar I).

My mind chatter was usually stuck thinking about how someone treated me earlier in the day, or thinking about the excitement or dread about the upcoming day.  I was possessed by my thoughts and I took all my thoughts as the absolute truth.   Since I took all my thoughts as my truth I suffered from very low self-esteem, high levels of stress, and was in a constant state of worry.   I developed a mindset that I wasn’t good enough or deserving, and became suicidal.

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The First Step To Heal And Taking Back Control

I suffered for 30+ years with bipolar, multiple sclerosis, among other ailments.  I kept seeing my doctors who continued to prescribe medicine to fix me.

I can look back and see that I was doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results – that is the definition of insanity.

I see that it was a deep rooted fear that by changing a normal routine would cause my health conditions to get worse.  My health was already dire, it couldn’t have gotten much worse.  I allowed myself to heal when I made a change to my normal routine.

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Sam J. Shelley Discussing Ways To Reduce Stress During The Free Holistic Fashionista Speaker Series

On Monday, October 20 at 12:00pm PST, Sam J. Shelley will be appearing as a featured inspirational speaker during the 10-day Holistic Fashionista Speaker Series, which runs October 14 to 24.

Reduce Stress: Sam J. Shelley to speak at Holistic Fashionista Speaker Series

Throughout Sam’s talk, “Five Minutes a Day to Reduce Stress,” you’ll learn ways to eliminate the negative chatter and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from reaching your true potential in both business and life. You’ll also gain usable, actionable tips for discovering your own personal path to wellness and permanent happiness. And Sam will share a number of the tips that have led to highly improved levels of concentration—and greater levels of productivity—in his Mindset Mentoring clients.

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